To be ready to match with intended parents, focus on records, responsiveness, preferences, support, and honest screening answers. A strong profile is helpful, but match readiness depends on whether the team can verify that the next steps are realistic.
Gather the right records
Pregnancy and delivery records are often the biggest practical blocker. Ask the coordinator which OB/GYN records, delivery summaries, postpartum notes, medication lists, insurance information, and prior surrogacy records are needed. If you had a cesarean birth, pregnancy complication, miscarriage, preterm birth, or postpartum issue, disclose it early so the clinic can decide what to review.
Missing records can delay even an otherwise good match.
Clarify your preferences
Think about the intended-parent relationship you want. Consider communication frequency, appointment attendance, video calls, privacy, social media, delivery-room expectations, postpartum updates, and whether you are open to international, LGBTQ+, single, or out-of-state intended parents.
You do not need to have every answer perfect. You do need to be honest about boundaries.
Confirm your support system
Surrogacy involves appointments, screening, pregnancy, recovery, and unexpected changes. Identify who can help with childcare, transportation, emotional support, work scheduling, and postpartum recovery. If your partner or household members have concerns, discuss them before matching.
A support gap does not always end the process, but it should be addressed before the journey starts.
Be responsive and consistent
Coordinators look for candidates who answer questions, provide records, attend calls, and communicate changes. If your schedule is busy, say so. Reliable communication builds trust before intended parents invest emotionally in the match.
Know what still depends on the clinic
ASRM guidance includes medical, infectious-disease, psychosocial, uterine, counseling, and legal review. Even a prepared candidate still needs clinic and legal clearance. Match readiness means you are ready to take those steps, not that the outcome is guaranteed.
Keep your profile current
Tell the coordinator if your address, job, insurance, childcare, breastfeeding status, medication list, relationship status, or availability changes. Those details can affect state fit, clinic timing, appointment planning, or intended-parent expectations. A profile that was accurate two months ago may need updates before it is shared again.
What makes intended parents more comfortable
Intended parents are usually looking for honesty, stability, responsiveness, realistic expectations, and willingness to follow the clinic process. They do not need perfection. They need confidence that the surrogate understands the commitment and will speak up when something changes.
If you are unsure what to share, ask whether the information affects safety, scheduling, legal fit, or relationship expectations. Those four categories catch most matching issues.
Questions to ask before profile sharing
- Are my pregnancy records complete?
- What parts of screening are pending?
- Are my state and clinic options clear?
- What communication preferences will intended parents see?
- What expenses and compensation terms should I understand?
- Who explains legal next steps?
- Can I pause if the match does not feel right?
Next steps
This page is educational information only. The agency, fertility clinic, and attorney must confirm readiness before a match moves forward.